Journal Entry: 8/26/2011 - Perspective

I went out tonight, alone again, to enjoy a Friday night and a glass of wine or two. Started at the gay bar and it was quiet, about 20 guys and one gg. I ordered and drank one glass of wine and politely turned down an invite to join a man at the table with his 6 male friends and left.

I wasn't ready to go home so went to a local chain restaurant/bar. I entered and went through the empty main bar and into the inside tiki bar. I took a table overlooking the active deck and listened to the music. I must have waited 30 minutes (or seemed like it) before a waitress approached to take my order. She was pleasant but working too hard to be nice and came off a bit patronizing. I paid for the glass of wine when she brought it and she checked on me a couple of times as I sipped the glass. I finished it, left a 30% tip and left. I had given her a $10.00 bill for a $6 glass of wine and received $14.00 in change.... I checked my purse and knew how much I had started with and indeed they had cashed me out as though I had given her a $20.00 bill. I knew it was $10 and an error in my favor but I felt ignored so didn't say anything.

All was not lost though as, with a tip, they paid me $12 to have a glass of wine in their place...maybe they are trying to attract more tgirls? Not likely. I did see my lesbian waitress from the other night and she came over to say hello. I asked he name and it as Jessica and introduced myself as Laura. I hope I can see her next time I am in there.

What have I learned? I don't like a smokey (gay) bar; I am transbien and prefer a lively place with girls around to a quiet one with pretty much only guys. Where do the lesbians hang out? Probably where ever they want because they can fit in
Anywhere if they want to.

Anyway....perspective....in the past, as a guy, I would have walked up to the bar and asked for service. I would have believed that they just didn't notice me. But, as Laura, I wondered if they were purposely ignoring me. True, I don't know how they divided up their tables and I was in the back. But I did wait a long time.

So, didn't notice me or ignored me.....it's all in your perspective. Either way, I like the place and I’m going back tomorrow.

I am sincerely,

Laura Catherine